Therapy for
exhausted women in finance
Downtown Boston, MA
You have achieved so much and thought it would make you happy…
…but you’re not happy
LICENSED IN MASSACHUSETTS AND NEW HAMPSHIRE
IN PERSON - TELEHEALTH - WALK AND TALK
I have it all. Why is it not enough?
Many of my clients have a partner but it doesn’t always feel like it when it comes time to planning for the kids’ activities, family trips, holidays, finding a babysitter - it’s a long list. If my client doesn’t take care of it, it simply doesn’t get done. In fact, things are beginning to fray at the edges—forgotten appointments, no signed permission slips, missed deadlines for summer camp. They care about their partners but feel really let down and angry that they are are not fair, equal household partners. Now my client’s parents need more help—rides to the doctor, help with their iPhones, maybe some assistance paying their bills. They simply cannot bear it all.
Well-intentioned people tell them that they should be grateful – they have a good—no great—job, a nice place to live, friends and family. They feel embarrassed and guilty that this isn’t enough.
​Their people-pleasing and guilt get in the way of the life they want in so many ways. They struggle to say “no” to people at work and in their personal life. They grew up seeing the women in their families consistently put the needs of others before themselves and now realize they are doing the same thing. They may even feel a bit resentful. At work, sometimes they lose out on opportunities that would be good for their careers because they find it hard to promote themselves.
They thought “having it all” would make them happy but have realized that it doesn’t seem to work that way. And their confidence in themselves as a strong, independent professional woman is tanking.
Before they started therapy, they thought it would take too much time and cost too much money. They felt guilty “complaining” and assumed that they must be the problem. They felt driven to be perfect despite never holding others to the same standard and would love to stop people-pleasing but find it a hard habit to break. Hopelessness is leaving them feeling misunderstood and alone.
​​​If you are really ready to figure this out and make some changes, I would love to help you.
You are beyond tired.
You are running the show at home - you are in charge of meals, summer camp, family vacations, and signing the kids up for sports and after school activities. If you want a date night, that’s on you, too. You have been up early to get the kids out the door to school before you go to work and are barely holding everything together—it’s way too much! Your mind is constantly racing and it’s making it impossible to sleep through the night. You can barely stop yourself from having a public meltdown or from snapping at the barista or your aging parents or your kids.
Work is hectic-too many meetings, business travel, staffing and budgeting issues-it feels like there are not enough hours in the day. When you get home, you are overwhelmed when you walk in the door. The house is a mess, the family needs dinner and the kids need to do their homework. The list goes on.
It’s not that you hate your partner; things are still pretty good but there is a serious disconnect about family and household workload. Every time you have “the talk” with your husband, things change for about two weeks, then it slowly goes downhill. Something NEEDS to change.
Looking for a therapist who understands your work?
Rachel is a licensed psychotherapist who worked in the investment field for 25 years. She has a business degree and is a CFA charter holder. Most of her current clients work in financial services.
She knows what it’s like.
