Coping Tips for Job Hunters
I Work with Stressed Out Professional Women
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Rachel C Sykes, CFA, LMHC
Coping Tips for Job Hunters
I get it. Being out of work can be more difficult than one expects, particularly when it’s taking a long time to find your next role. Sometimes, friends and families doesn’t really understand how you are feeling. While these thoughts don’t apply to everyone, I am offering some suggestions for your consideration.
Structure
Many people who are out of work struggle unexpectedly because of the lack of structure. Can you use your calendar to set up designated times to work on job search activities? Can you schedule in non-job search activities? This may be a bit controversial but I don’t necessarily think more is better. I have seen some folks perform less well because they are spending so much time looking for a new role, they actually come across less well prepared because they feel overwhelmed and even depressed. I know that financial pressure is real, though. What about getting out of the house? While my old commute into the office may have been exhausting and monotonous, I actually miss the daily walk back and forth between train and the office!
Exercise
How much exercise are you getting? Perhaps you have figured this out but in case you haven’t, exercise is really effective at managing one’s mental health: for example, a walk can reduce anxiety and improve feelings of depression. Okay, maybe you know this, too but are you actually exercising regularly? Whether you go to the gym, do home calisthenics, take a yoga class, or take a walk, it’s likely good.
Journal
When I suggest journaling, most people resist. To some, it sounds too touchy-feely, while others are just cynical about the benefits of something so simple. While I admit that this may not serve everyone, it is something well worth trying. You may be surprised at how helpful it is to articulate your thoughts in writing. It’s also basically free. You can journal and then throw it out, if that makes you more comfortable. I will note that I personally use this technique at times and I save my writing to review later. I have found it particularly valuable to read about my thoughts at a later date when I am less upset or stressed, as it is a concrete reminder of my own resilience in dealing with difficult things.
Confidants
Do you have family or friends with whom you can share your unvarnished thoughts? It’s not uncommon for people to believe that they are protecting others by keeping worries to themselves. However, if this sounds like you, please consider that you may giving up the opportunity to strengthen a relationship by being a teensy bit more vulnerable. I am not suggesting that you dump your stress onto your kids, nor that you make yourself vulnerable with people that do not deserve your trust. However, many job seekers feel quate alone and it’s not necessarily a requirement. Also, if you don’t feel as if you have anyone in your life that can serve such a role, work on that!
Rachel C. Sykes, LMHC rachel@rachelcsykes.com 781-630-4670