Therapy for Infidelity

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My clients struggle as you do. Despite having the “picture perfect” life—a great job, a long-term committed relationship, with much loved friends and family—life is hard.  

 When my clients first come in for therapy, they are nervous and panicky.  They have been holding it in and feel ready to burst.  They struggle with the shame of having stepped outside of their marriage/partnership, as this is something they thought they would never do.  They have no one they can talk to about this – they are too embarrassed to talk with friends or family.  They feel like they are leading a double life.

They are carrying on at work and slogging through the day at home but it’s wearing them down.  They are irritated and frustrated with their partner and are not sure they want to stay together. They are embarrassed to realize that they don’t know exactly what they want. They are terrified that someone will find out their secret.

 My clients didn’t think their marriages were perfect but they never expected to be in this situation.  They bounce between wanting a divorce and feeling desperate to repair the damage but are paralyzed by their guilt and shame.  They want to be honest but are not sure they can handle the fallout.   They are worried about the impact on children, family, lifestyle, and financial security.  It’s too much.

 They are anxious.  They are starting to fray at the edges: losing their temper at work and with family for no good reason, then feeling guilty about it. Their mind is racing.  They are waking up at night feeling sick and panicky.  They are struggling to hold it all in and know something needs to change.

 Their confusion and feelings of overwhelm are getting in the way of the life they want in so many ways. This isn’t the marriage they thought they were in. They feel like they’re failing at being a wife, mother, and partner.  Their self-respect is tanking.

Before they came to see me, my clients were afraid of feeling judged.  They thought they didn’t have the time for therapy and weren’t sure it was worth the expense.  They struggled to understand how therapy might help them. They were pretty certain that they should be able to figure this out without help. Holding it all in is unsustainable and it hurts.

 Like my clients, you deserve a safe and non-judgmental space to work though this. Gaining clarity and regaining your peace of mind are not out of your reach.  If you are willing to work through your pain and create a path for moving forward, I’d love to help you get there.

 Schedule a free 20-minute consultation now. You don’t have to suffer. I can help.